Guy Kettelhack author, former Crisp agent, editor of The Wit and Wisdom of Quentin Crisp |
Quentin (whom I quote endlessly to the exasperation of everybody: he will not leave my head) said: "Say what youve come to say." A simple suggestion which (put interrogatively: "Have I said what I came to say?") has over the years become a more and more useful touchstone for me. However, sometimes you think youre saying what youve come to say when actually youre defending what youre too frightened not to. Again Quentin comes to our rescue, this time with only two words: "Never defend." Aha! Now I know I should say what Ive come to say but never defend. Simple enough. One could almost live a life on that basis. (He did.) It wouldnt be how most anyone else was living his or her life, but hey, it might work. It would at least be refreshing. Imagine always saying what youve come to say and never defending. Very likely youd never quite feel, think, say, do the same thing twice. Youd be free of the burden of lying. Which means youd never be boring. For, as Quentin also said, "Only a lie is boring." Its the only self-help Ive ever found useful. (I had and have no other mentor than you, dear Quentin.) |
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